I am the queen of multitasking. As a mom of young kids, a therapist, and a practice owner, there is almost always more than one thing happening at once. I’m writing an email while making lunch. Listening to a voice memo while folding laundry. Thinking through my schedule while getting someone dressed. Responding to a message while standing at the kitchen counter. And sometimes, I wear my ability to multitask like a badge of honor. Look at how much I can get done. But one quiet afternoon in my...

If you’re a people pleaser, boundaries can feel terrible. Not necessarily because the boundary itself is wrong—but because somewhere along the way, you learned that keeping other people happy was part of your job. So when someone is disappointed by your boundary, it can feel like evidence that you did something wrong. As a therapist—and a recovered people pleaser—here’s one of the biggest things I’ve learned about boundaries: Someone being unhappy with your boundary does not automatically...

This afternoon I was sitting in my backyard watching my toddler play. He was wearing a shirt that didn't match his shorts. One of his shoes was completely soaked because he had stepped in the dog's water bowl for fun. And, for reasons only toddlers can fully explain, he had a pool floatie wrapped around his waist...over his clothes. He walked around smiling, completely unbothered. He wasn't wondering if the neighbors thought he looked ridiculous. He wasn't worried that his outfit made no...