Disenfranchised grief is not a term you hear very often. However, it is a term that can have very real impacts on our lives and the lives of our loved ones
So what is it? Disenfranchised grief is a term that refers to the grieving process associated with situations that are not widely accepted by society. Example of this include: loss of a pregnancy through miscarriage or abortion, a loved one with dementia, loss of a loved one to addiction, a break up with an abusive partner, and so many other situations.
These situations are often taboo to discuss out loud. They may be associated with fear of judgment from others if discussed.
Questions arise like:
Am I to blame?
Did I do enough to help?
This is no longer my mom - am I wrong for wanting their suffering to end?
And I am here to tell you, no. No, you are not to blame and whatever feelings you have are acceptable feelings. These situations are complicated and often involve so many layers of feelings that can be hard to wade through on your own. No matter what the situation, your feelings are valid. Whether society believes it or not, you will experience a roller coaster of emotions as you move through the five stages of grief.
And the process will not be linear. One step forward, two steps back, a leap forward, and one step back. No matter your journey, I am here, screaming from the rooftops to remind you that it is not your fault and your feelings are valid. Grief is grief, no matter the situation that has lead you down this difficult path. I am here to help you move through that journey in a compassionate, supportive way. There is a way through and you deserve a safe space to discuss whatever the situation is that is causing you grief.
If you are in need of support as you navigate and process through grief, please reach out! I'd love to support you.
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